The Story Behind My Resolutions
I am writing this post as part of the 2014 Blogger Challenge. The first prompt is to write about what inspired my New Year’s Resolutions. When I came up with my resolutions for this coming year, I tried to look at what I considered to be the deficits in my life from the previous year or at least areas of my life that I wanted to change or improve. I have seven goal areas for the year: Service, Self-Care, Family, Relationship, Home Organization, Writing/Blogging, and Finances. This list is a little different than what I’ve focused on in the past.
“Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” -Lama Yeshe
This quote stood out because I do find that I have a hard time being a good mom if I don’t have that time for myself. I will probably always be less than great at doing things I want to do without feeling guilty, but I think that I can at least improve in this area. Therefore, many of the areas (self-care, family, relationship, and service) are geared towards things that should help with this. Home organization will help me to feel more organized and productive, and being more in control of our finances will also help. Writing and blogging comes in because it has been one of the few things I can do in the evenings after my kids go to bed.
Part of me feels guilty for not adding a music component this year. I do want to add more music in my life but it is difficult to do when the kids are napping or have gone down for the night. To get any time to myself, I pretty much have to leave the house and writing is something I can do at Starbucks, while music is not as easy to do away from the house. I have included music in my 101 in 1,001 list so I have chosen to focus on those musical tasks rather than add new ones to my resolutions for the year. I also have music-related activities planned for my self-care goals.
I have worked so hard over the past several years to do what is best for my kids and my family. Personally, I think one of the hardest things about being a mother is still maintaining a sense of self, especially in the early years of our children’s lives. It is so easy to set aside the things we enjoy and the things that make us “us” without even realizing it. It’s not that I am planning to stop doing things for my family, but somewhere along the way, I seem to have forgotten that I need something for myself as well. Hopefully, 2014 will be the year that I can find myself again.
Stay tuned for the final installment of my 2014 Resolutions!