If You Aren’t a Mom…
…..then please don’t judge me! There are a whole slew of comments I am annoyed upon hearing, many of which I am sure I can be accused of saying before I had kids. They are certainly things I hope I never said to a mom and if I did, I can honestly say I now know the error of my ways. So I’m making it easy for you if you’re not a mom yet.
1. Why not just take the kids to the park to play instead of staying home and doing nothing? Well, that sounds like a really good time, right? Taking your kids to the park and letting them run around, getting sand/wood chips/those little black things stuck in their shoes and clothes. And standing under the monkey bars while one of them hangs from them insisting she doesn’t need help but is clearly struggling, while the other one is screaming at you from across the playground to help him climb up the slide. And let’s not forget about picking up random objects and taste-testing them while his/her brother/sister just fell in the mud. Now they’re both going to have baths again and there may even be a trip to the ER in your future, depending on what was just digested. Yeah, that sounds great…
2. I can’t believe you let them watch TV. Ok, so if I have been up three or four times in the middle of the night with one or both of my kids, I will do almost anything most days, ok almost every day, to be able to sleep in a little in the mornings, even if it means my kid watches Sesame Street or Mickey Mouse Clubhouse while I try to sleep in another 30 minutes. (By the way, forget Mickey Mouse – Sesame Street gives you an entire hour!) Sometimes you just do what you have to do.
3. What’s the big deal if your husband wants to spend a weekend camping with his buddies? Well, here’s the big deal. I have already spent several days with them on my own this week and now I don’t even get an hour or two on the weekend to take a break. I would count naptime as a break except that the second I do, there will be some sort of strike on nap times. You should also note here that it is not being with my children I need a break from; it’s all the things I am responsible for doing while I am with them, like wiping butts, changing diapers, cleaning up after a meal, making sure they get a bath, bedtime routines, etc. It is truly exhausting and my other half being gone means that I am on the clock the entire weekend. It is kind of like the equivalent of working at your job the entire weekend and even being on call during the night when there is a 100% chance that you will be called and expected to work for at least an hour or two when you’d rather be sleeping like every one else in the free world. It makes me tired just thinking about it. Besides, when was the last time I left to hang out with friends for the weekend? I can’t even remember, because I wouldn’t want to put all the work on my husband for an entire weekend if our kids are that little.
4. I definitely won’t stop going out with my friends after I have kids. Yeah, I totally feel like going out drinking after I have spent the last 4 nights up with my kid at least three times each night. I am 100% awake and feel great!
5. How much energy would it take to just pick up that toy and put it away? Actually it takes very little energy to pick up a single toy and put it away. What takes a significant amount of energy is to pick up that single toy about twenty times an hour for the entire time my kids are awake and moving around/destroying the house! Sometimes I feel like if I have to bend over one time to pick up that same toy from the same spot on the floor, I am going to scream and not stop until someone else comes and picks it up instead.
So obviously, motherhood is worth it or so many people wouldn’t do it, right? I mean, look at them….
How could you be angry for long with faces like that? I am 120% convinced that God made children cute because some days it is their only saving grace.
As moms, we all do what we have to do to survive and keep our sanity intact, though that is truly debatable on some days. The last thing we want to hear, as we’re doing the very best we can, is what we should be doing from the people who really have no idea what they’re talking about. So while we’re trying to make things work, it would be nice for people to go and be judgy somewhere else, because I can guarantee we moms are all taking notes on who said what so we can give you the big “I told you so!” when you finally do decide to have kids!