Pampering Is For Moms, Too!
In keeping with my motherhood theme for these 2014 Blogging Challenge prompts, I decided to talk about the importance of moms pampering themselves. Yes, it’s great to be a mom, but it’s also hard at the same time. It may not sound like the words “moms” and “pampering” should go together in the same sentence, but here are 5 reasons why they do go together.
1. No one else is probably going to pamper you, so you should go ahead and take the initiative. Yeah, you may get something special on Mother’s Day or your birthday but if these weren’t special days, it is likely that these days would go by without any thought of you. So many moms are givers by nature, except when it comes to themselves. We tend to do things for our kids (and our significant others) first, but we often don’t show ourselves this same courtesy. And honestly, how many times have you heard of moms doing things for themselves and you thought to yourself about how selfish she must be to choose herself over her family in that instance? I don’t know if that judgment is more about judging someone for a choice we don’t feel she should make or if it is jealousy that another mom is confident enough in herself to pamper herself from time to time and we just wish we could do something like that. This may not be 100% the case all the time, but I think in many cases, if moms don’t take care of themselves, no one else will do it for them.
2. If you do not take care of yourself, you cannot take care of other people. Let’s repeat that. If you do not take care of yourself, you cannot take care of other people. As a therapist, I have to remind myself of this every single day, and I think it is a statement that is also true of moms. This statement does not mean it is ok to neglect your children and do whatever you want whenever you want, but it certainly implies that moms must have some level of self-care in order to take care of their families. If you don’t get any down time or time to yourself, it will only make you stressed (which will make you physically sick) and short-tempered with your family and the people you love.
3. You are only one person. This is a statement I often have trouble with. As moms, we sometimes have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and all the things we should be able to do in a day. I am a list person so I am always working off of a to-do list, but sometimes I have to remind myself that there is always tomorrow. I am only one person and there is only so much I can do in a day.
4. We only have one life to live. Do you want to remember all the time you spent stressed out and sick over all the things you had to do? Or would you rather remember all the fun you had with your family? Time spent with your family is of a much better quality if you are feeling good about yourself and your life.
5. Your children will learn from you. I am assuming that, as moms, we all want our children to love themselves, be confident in themselves, and be nice to themselves. The problem is that if they don’t see us doing those things, they won’t do them, either. Sometimes when I know I am not taking care of myself, I say out loud (or write it down) what I want my children to be like and it helps to put things in perspective.
If you aren’t taking time for yourself and you feel fine, then that’s great! I’m not suggesting you should change anything if you feel like you have everything you need, but on the other side of that, I see so many moms (and people in general) who don’t have everything they need, and I firmly believe that, for a lot of us, self-care is what is missing! If you feel selfish doing it for you, then remind yourself that you’re also doing it for your family.
What are you going to do for yourself today?